by Nick Furey on 07/16/15
Many would agree that BULLYING - By Undermining Lives Like Yours Instantly Negates Growth - is a wrong and harmful, as it devastates other's lives and ruins the potential for the BULLY too. What people don't realize is that GOSSIP is also an extreme version of BULLYING. It completely undermines the person being talked about and causes the person who is talking about others to diminish - their integrity and spirit.
GOSSIP - Gouging Other's Sensitive Spirit Injures People
Remember, it Injures not only the recipient but also the one who delivers the GOSSIP. But you say, "I am only telling the truth about the person, I am not telling lies." I heard a speaker say, "Always speak the truth, but you don't have to always tell things even if they are the truth."
Every person has a Sensitive Spirit; there are certain things in a person's life that are "off-limits" for talking about. You do not insult a depressed person about their mental condition by merely talking about them to other people with disregard. It would be much more beneficial to understand their situation and help them rise out of their mire. Consider being a friend instead of a fiend. We all have two ears and one mouth, we should be listening twice as much as we speak.
Why do we GOSSIP?
1. In life, our lives can feel miserable and by talking about someone else's life, seems like our life is less miserable.
2. To gain attention. It appears that when we GOSSIP about others we gain the approval and attention of others. Yes, we get a laugh together, on someone else's expense. Remember, if they are willing to laugh with you when you talk about others, they are probably more than willing to GOSSIP about you when you're not around.
Social media has made it soooo easy to air unnecessary details about ourselves and others. This information stays on the internet for as long as there's the internet. When you air your own dirty laundry on a social media, it gives others the ammunition to talk about you. One site calls it a "Friends list", but are they really your friends? Are they really your friends? Many of us of hundreds of friends online, but very few in our everyday life. Telling one friend can trigger 100 more people to GOSSIP about your issue, but having 100 or more social media friends can turn into 1000 people knowing your miserable situation. Make sure that one friend you tell is trustworthy and has your best interest.
Some say, "I am really concerned about Bob and Ella, their marriage seems like it's in trouble. I think we should be there for them." Sounds good, somewhat. It depends on your motive - is it to truly to help them or is it designed to get in on the GOSSIP circle?
By eliminating GOSSIP from your life, you enable yourself to rise up and stay clear of being injured too.